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So, Jada Pinkett-Smith was involved with a singer-songwriter named August Alsina while she and Will Smith were on a break. Alsina claimed that Will sanctioned the affair, which Jada denies.
Of course, that brings up the subject of open relationships.
To me, non-marriage open relationships seem only slightly less problematic than open marriages. If I was married, I wouldn’t be comfortable with the idea of another person in our marriage. I’m not sure how comfortable I’d be as the other person in someone’s relationship.
Thoughts?
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Thoughts?
I think the Mets have a very good chance at the pennant due to the shortened MLB season. They always start strong and finish strong, but struggle during the middle of the regular season; so the team will definitely benefit from the elimination of that long, dry middle season.
Any other thoughts, anyone?
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What?… no click bait JR?
Anyway…
Open marriages are a mutual thing between the two. If one mate has a wandering eye and wants to fool around, the other mate can too.
Will and Jada have it like that. They aren’t exactly swingers… but that is another story beyond the scope and decency of the carrier…Shifting gears… soulmate. I hear this word as describing someone who fits you perfectly and only one such person. How can I be sure my soulmate is in NYC? Maybe they are in California or halfway around the world and I don’t really travel much? Truth is, there are more than one person who can be compatible with you. Just saying…
As for the Mets… Lets go Mets!
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I think the Mets have a very good chance at the pennant due to the shortened MLB season.
lmao(j/k). by the way. I saw that the schedule for you is 40 vs NL East 20 vs AL East. so that means my Yanks get to play Florida and your Mets get to play Baltimore.
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njerry wrote:
Like a repeat of the 1969 World Series!!i’mkinda thinking it might be the exact opposite
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I’m forging ahead with something made especially complicated since shes had 2 covid tests and now ive had one, all which means we have to self-isolate over weekends.
When we could be boning
It’s really annoying
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“I knew right away that he was what I call a twin flame,” Fox said during the couple’s first joint interview on Lala Kent and Randall Emmett’s podcast, Give Them Lala … With Randall. “Instead of a soulmate, a twin flame is actually where a soul has ascended into a high enough level that it can be split into two different bodies at the same time. So we’re actually two halves of the same soul, I think. And I said that to him almost immediately, because I felt it right away.”
According to astrologer Lisa Stardust, Fox’s explanation of the phenomenon is pretty accurate. A twin flame, she says, is when two people emerge from one. “A twin flame is a very interesting concept,” she tells Refinery29. “The way that twin flames work is that you have to be awakened and conscious to the other person being your twin flame.” Both people must be aware that they are twin flames in order for the pairing to work. From their interview, it seems like Fox and Kelly are both totally awake to their twin flame status.
These people all need therapy. Desperately.
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Lighting farts? @Bruce… please leave your personal habits out of this. TMI
On a side note… Should be vacation time.
Where was the nicest place the two of you went for a nice evening, vacation, and so on?
Mine was Rio but I wouldn’t go there now… Nowadays I go to a Brazilian steakhouse in NYC.
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Where was the nicest place the two of you went for a nice evening
We have been to numerous Deep Purple concerts.
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Where was the nicest place the two of you went for a nice evening, vacation, and so on?
The island of Maui in Hawaii. Went there before we were married, went again for our honeymoon, went back again with our kids for our 25th anniversary (and got remarried by a Hawaiian priest on the beach), and again a year later for a proper second honeymoon without the kids.
I’ve been to other islands of Hawaii (Big island, Oahu, Kauai, Lanai), but Maui is our favorite.
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Where was the nicest place the two of you went for a nice evening
We have been to numerous Deep Purple concerts.
You are truly blessed.
Not many relationships are strong enough to withstand something like that.
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We went to the relationship thread once and had those kinds of laughs that make an evening magical. She still refuses to believe it wasn’t just a bunch of bots. And I keep telling her “No, you’re real. Not a figment of my imagination. Don’t you see?” but she refuses to see. She has bees for eyes. Eye-less bees. Hundreds. Such a magical evening.
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We went to the relationship thread once and had those kinds of laughs that make an evening magical. She still refuses to believe it wasn’t just a bunch of bots. And I keep telling her “No, you’re real. Not a figment of my imagination. Don’t you see?” but she refuses to see. She has bees for eyes. Eye-less bees. Hundreds. Such a magical evening.
Those’d be great first sentences for a novel.
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I wish I had eyeless bees for eyes.
Why does Anders’ friend get to have eyeless bees for eyes and I have to have stupid normal squishy globular eyes.
This is just so fucking unfair and typical anti-Tim persecution.
I want my eyeless bee eyes!
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Anders’ friend
She has a name, you know. I think she’ll tell me what it is one day.
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@Anders…
You mean to tell me that you show this thread to outsiders?
Only a couple of hundred russian guys.
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The first rule of the relationship thread is you do not talk about relationship thread
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The first rule of the relationship thread is you do not talk about relationship thread
Punish me, Al-X! Punish me! I’ve been a bad [gender-pronoun]! You must punish me!
Will it be the lash? Come on, you filthy robot [gendered-parental nominator]! You know you want to.
What is that? What are you doing? No!! Not that!! Anything but that… Not the… not the…
FRIEND ZOOOOOOOOONE!!!!! AIIEIEIEIEIEIEIEIEIEIGGHGGGHHHHH!!
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Illustration of Al-X banishing Anders to the Friend Zone:
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If you like them too, maybe strike up a conversation with a view to asking them out?
If not, make it clear they’re in the friendzone.
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If you find out someone likes you… what do you do?
I send them a dickpic and ask repeatedly why they stopped responding.
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Yeah I usually send them one of Anders’ dickpics too.
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Yeah I usually send them one of Anders’ dickpics too.
Where did you get them?
Oh yeah, your mom has them all. Forgot. My bad.
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Yeah I usually send them one of Anders’ dickpics too.
Where did you get them?
Oh yeah, your mom has them all. Forgot. My bad.
Jokes on you.
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If you find out someone likes you… what do you do?
Wait, how did I find out about this?
Same way most people find out about things I would guess, hacking their email.
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Ask her if she can lend you $1,000.
Is that how you got your millions, Jerry?
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Trailer trash, how we do love thee.
They are recording the wedding on Tik-Tok
The mother in law looks so glamourous in Wedding day attire.
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The mother in law looks so glamourous in Wedding day attire.
I thought the same. It’s a wedding, let’s go in shorts and t-shirt. 😂
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If you look at portraits of the beautiful people from 200, 300 years ago, they were all “heavy”. Standards of beauty change over time. You’d have been a real catch in Georgian England, Al.
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Er… apart from the obvious
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Er… apart from the obvious
Like Keanu Reeves?
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But either way, sure. You don’t find a lot of people on heartthrob magazine covers that aren’t nice to look up.
What are we supposed to say to that, Al? It’s a very obvious fact that attractive people will get more attention. Might as well comment on the sun rising in the, um, East?
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Just don’t like front runners and band wagon jumpers… Just saying
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It’s easy:
Front runners are the people in front of the band wagon leading the horses.
Band wagon jumpers are the people who are with the band wagon being pulled by the horses.
Al only likes the people behind the band wagon. They are the ones shoveling the shit from the horses.
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It’s easy:
Front runners are the people in front of the band wagon leading the horses.
Band wagon jumpers are the people who are with the band wagon being pulled by the horses.
Al only likes the people behind the band wagon. They are the ones shoveling the shit from the horses.
Sorry David but I think you’ve got this wrong and you’re putting the cart before the horse here, so I’m circling the wagons. Fixing this mistake might seem like shutting the stable door after the horse has bolted, but you’ve got to get back in the saddle and spur yourself onwards to make sure you don’t fall off the wagon again.
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It’s easy:
Front runners are the people in front of the band wagon leading the horses.
Band wagon jumpers are the people who are with the band wagon being pulled by the horses.
Al only likes the people behind the band wagon. They are the ones shoveling the shit from the horses.
Sorry David but I think you’ve got this wrong and you’re putting the cart before the horse here, so I’m circling the wagons. Fixing this mistake might seem like shutting the stable door after the horse has bolted, but you’ve got to get back in the saddle and spur yourself onwards to make sure you don’t fall off the wagon again.
Tallyfuckingho-yoyoyo
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Anders talks about gifting shears… When was the last time you gave scissors as a present?
Here’s an interesting aside. When I first came to Malaysia my boss came up to me one day and said ‘give me 5 cents’ – the lowest value coin there is, worth about 1.5 cents US. I was a bit confused but gave it to him. He gave me a Swiss pen-knife he picked up for me on a trip as a gift.
The reason for asking for the money is you aren’t supposed to give a blade as a gift, so I technically bought it from him.
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Sometimes a woman gets you to meet her girlfriends to see if you pass their inspection. Other times it is some clique that you have to join…
Also, sometimes, very occasionally, once in a blue moon, she just wants to share her wider social life with you.
That isn’t very lady-like and also girls aren’t people. Woman is the opposite of man and thus nothing like men, man. Come on. This is the relationship thread. Keep your radical political ideas of women as people to the politics thread please.
Pleaser?
Pleasest!
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Women have girlfriends. It is a common expression in the States…
And I wasn’t finished….
If you were introduced to her social circle how did it go? One time I was with some “clique” briefly and they felt they had one over on everybody and they were so cool and hip. I just didn’t like it and bailed. No need to chase after a group of people like that. For all you know they may talk about you behind your back, feeling you are expendable and so on…
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We sat down and talked about stuff, while at all times avoiding eye-contact.
Turns out all of her friends also have eyeless bees for eyes and I don’t want to rub my eyes against their bees. It would have been awkward. More awkward. Awkwardest.
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I think Al a repeated theme in your posts though is viewing this stuff like a magazine article or the ‘Game’ book where every move is cynically calculated.
Not everything is easy in relationships but generally if you get on very well as a couple your friends will too. I have been on holiday with Audrey’s friends and we had a great time. When we go back to the UK we tend to stay with my friends and the same happens there, she loves my best man at my wedding and thinks he can do no wrong.
It’s not all perfect, she has an old friend as a godparent to my boy and I think he could do more, he’s rarely in contact and I thought it was a bad idea but in the end it’s not that important either. A good friend’s wife was initially quite judgemental that Audrey was wrong for me as she had some stereotype idea that an Asian girlfriend could only be about social climbing but to be honest I barely knew her and she changed her tune later.
That’s genuinely all the conflict there is because if people like you and you like each other then you’ll most likely all get along.
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I used to post articles but not anymore. I just post what comes to mind. We already covered meeting the parents. We just didn’t cover meeting the circle of friends. Now we have.
A lot has been discussed and I can’t think of anything more to spark discussions. Perhaps the thread has run its course…
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A lot has been discussed and I can’t think of anything more to spark discussions. Perhaps the thread has run its course…
If one doesn’t have anything to left to contribute to a discussion the solution on an open forum like this isn’t to close the opportunity for discussion down. Others might have things to say. Just staying out of it and letting other discuss whatever’s on topic for the thread is a better option. Time will tell if a thread has run its course simply by that thread no longer getting new posts.
It does seem to me like you want to “spark” and direct discussion a lot more than you want to participate in it. MAybe you should start your own forum?
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Yes…
Yes…
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I don’t know but I think I am getting too old for this sort of thing…
Reasoned discourse? Well, there’s always twitter!
Jokes aside, and to get back on the point I wanted to make earlier: It seems to me like you want to spark and direct discussion more than anything else:
If anyone of us was to start a fair amount of their posts with “Enough about that, let’s discuss this instead” that would become tedious and obtuse pretty fast. And that is exactly what your use of “shifting gears” implies to me.
There’s no need for anyone to come in and steer discussion unless they’re a mod. I believe keeping the discussions on topic is in their job description, and we play pretty loosely with being on topic here anyway.
Maybe I’m the last person who should talk about what is and isn’t insensitive and annoying, but from my point of view it is annoying to be participating in a discussion (as both reader and poster) and then have someone come in mid-discussion and try to steer the thread into a different direction by “shifting gears” again and again. It’s like when someone puts on a great tune at a party and while everybody’s grooving, some other bloke comes along a minute in and changes the tune.
Granted, this happens more often in the storytelling thread than in the relationship thread, but I’m talking about your general poster trends not confined to any topic.
On the topic of participating, discussion is based entirely on participation. If a discussion takes hold on any topic and people participate in it, to come in and actively try to get people discussing something else is the opposite of participating. There’s no reason we can’t have several discussions at once. We often do. (It’s Man of Steel and Prometheus.)
Not that I think you’re posting whatever you’re posting for any other reason than you being friendly and an active part of the community. If you keep your posting habits as such, at least now you know what I think of them. And I’m not saying you shouldn’t speak your mind (we’re all friends here) but I am saying to be mindful of what you say and when, how and why.
If I come across as harsh, Al-X, that is not my intention. I’m just trying to speak my mind more openly than when I’ve been unfair in the past by ridiculing your posting habits by saying things like “gifting shears”… and I won’t do the latter again.
Just sayin’… ;)
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I wouldn’t ever criticise anyone for wanting to spark discussion, I think it’s what a board like this needs and it’s always good to have people bring up new topics.
However, in this thread specifically it seems like there is a tendency to bring up a topic for discussion and then, when people engage with it, bat it away and try and talk about something else instead.
I don’t know whether it’s connected to an unwillingness to share deep feelings on these personal topics and a desire to just talk about them in a surface way, but I think that trend is why this thread is often treated in a bit of a jokey way by a lot of us.
If there’s a sincere willingness to talk about something – anything really – I think at least someone here will engage with it, and you can look to other threads for examples of that on all sorts of topics. But if there isn’t, then the conversation will end up flitting about in a light fluffy way and ultimately go around in circles without anything really being said.
Now about Chris Rock…
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Now about Chris Rock…
Uh oh; I hope it’s not bad news.
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Reasoned discourse?
No. I meant being on the pull or prowl…
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Seriously… People my age have been married over 20 years with grown children… What the hell am I still doing playing dating games and supposedly on the pull? Getting too old.
Is there such a thing as too old to meet new people, too old to go on dates? I don’t think there’s anything wrong with looking for what you want, regardless of how old you get. I know people who have been married for 10+ years, with kids, then got a divorce and are now dancing around the dating scene again.
Doing it the same way as always, that would probably feel a bit overdone after a while, I suppose… If you feel you’re too old for the game, change the game to something that fits your current you! Change what you want, how you go about it, and where you look for it it. But don’t give up, man! :)
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Seriously… People my age have been married over 20 years with grown children…
My cousin lost his the first love of his life to cancer in 2012 after almost 30 years of marriage. In 2019, with his two grown children, son- and daughter-in-law, and first grandchild in attendance, he married the second love of his life. You’re never too old.
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I mean we know how this goes, we’ll advise Al to look for women he has a lot in common with and create an organic relationship. He’ll come back 2 weeks later about a Kate Upton photo in a magazine and the friend zone. It’s a circle we shall navigate forever.
LOL
Not exactly…
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Al, don’t worry about Jon. Instead of a half empty kind of guy, his glass has a hole in the bottom. There is nothing wrong with being by yourself.
Which is exactly what I said, so I don’t see why he’d need to worry about me… I mean, I’m in that boat myself, so I would know… but ok
I am not getting younger, feeling that time has passed me by and I missed the proverbial boat.
Al, from everything you’ve posted throughout these past 10, 15 or however many years it’s been, it seems to me (and I might be wrong, so ignore me if I am) that you’re just not very much into the idea of sharing your life with someone else, but you’re constantly bothered by the idea of the need to conform to certain social norms… so IF that’s your case, what I’m saying is it could just be healthier to accept that you’re on a different track and move from that point to address the issue.
Funny how the thread comes alive when I say something.
Also, no Al, it’s not funny, that’s how discussions work… xD
